Oh hi there people! It’s been a
long time since I last wrote something here so yes, I’ve so many tales to tell,
good things really, but let’s start with this first shall we?
So many a moment when I entered my class, the students would ask me whether I have a girlfriend or when I would get married. I don't know about you, and to be honest I don't mind them asking that. There's one thing though, these students think (logically of course) that at a certain age you should at least already have a future partner. I'm afraid that they think that marriage is the only goal worthy in life.
First of all, let me say this - people still think that I'm a student instead of a teacher (I consider that a privilege haha). If I were to have a wife, I don't really want people to think that she's my mom. My physical issue aside, marriage is a commitment, heck, having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is a commitment, albeit not as serious as the legit hubby wife relationship.
Especially for a guy, you need to have a good financial stability and moral stature. If you can't provide your family with proper food, house, education in all aspects, tender loving care, etc, you're damning your wife and kids for eternity. Many of my friends are now happily married (I hope). They know where they stand in life, and I'm sure they are giving the best they can for their families. I'm happy for them, I am.
So many a moment when I entered my class, the students would ask me whether I have a girlfriend or when I would get married. I don't know about you, and to be honest I don't mind them asking that. There's one thing though, these students think (logically of course) that at a certain age you should at least already have a future partner. I'm afraid that they think that marriage is the only goal worthy in life.
First of all, let me say this - people still think that I'm a student instead of a teacher (I consider that a privilege haha). If I were to have a wife, I don't really want people to think that she's my mom. My physical issue aside, marriage is a commitment, heck, having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is a commitment, albeit not as serious as the legit hubby wife relationship.
Especially for a guy, you need to have a good financial stability and moral stature. If you can't provide your family with proper food, house, education in all aspects, tender loving care, etc, you're damning your wife and kids for eternity. Many of my friends are now happily married (I hope). They know where they stand in life, and I'm sure they are giving the best they can for their families. I'm happy for them, I am.
Me? I'm not ready for that kind of commitment. Marriage is a big
thing and the only big things I want right now are that hardcover 529-page
"Harry Potter Page to Screen: The Complete Filmmaking Journey" which
costs an amazing RM343.41 in Kinokuniya and a large New York thin crust
Domino's to complete my reading it. I can commit myself to books and pizzas.
One other matter is that I don't believe that I can't be happy if I don't have
a partner. Happiness is a state of mind. If you want to be happy, just be
happy. Be happy for other people, be happy for yourself. No one will get hurt
if you choose not to hurt.
The last thing I want is for my students to think that they need
a girlfriend or a boyfriend to be happy. Yes, you can be happy if you have a
"loving" partner, no one's denying that, but to restrict your
happiness and to put your world onto one person is just... too careless.
There're so many things out there, things to achieve, things to discover. The
world is not written in black and white. (I also don't want my students to
think that their boyfriends or girlfriends are inherently tied to everything
they do. Hey, you're not even married yet. Respect, compassion, and love? Yes.
Obligatory monthly BF/GF allowance/gift and constant side-by-side? Hell no!)
Maybe there'll be time when I feel like it's ripe for me to get
married, but that time is not now. I have so many dreams, both superficial
(such as getting that HP book, buying that cute decor in Typo, etc.) and
ambitious (getting a Masters degree in Literature, working for the United
Nations). Yes, I know that some people say, "You can still achieve stuff
even if you're married to a beautiful wife and have constantly whining triplets",
but hey, we have different minds. Bud, I don't gauge myself based on your
life, and certainly I won't measure my preference for food based on your taste
buds.
