My lecturer said [during our last term’s Education Psychology class] that a person’s personality is actually shaped by what the others distinguish of them. Well, that was what he said, more or less. I think he’s true on that.
You can’t just go to a total stranger and say that you’re a noble, gorgeous person with a nice heart and are very helpful, can you? The public will stare at you like you’re some kind of lunatic… and that, my friend, is your ‘real’ personality.
Okay, you may think that you’re nice and good and this and that, but in the end, it is up to the notions of others on how they perceive you. If they think you’re a great, wise, or helpful in character, then, you can safely say you are.
By the way, don’t you just feel like you want to be in someone else’s brain and discover how they actually feel about you? You can find out how well they like you, how… errr… bad they hate you, the reasons behind all those views about you, you know, so you can think of a way to let yourself be much better in person [or else, to plot some kind of revenge against them… wahaha~]. Then again, I guess if the answers are put in a silver platter in front of us [yes… I think I used the idiom wrongly, thank you…], then life will not be a mystery isn’t it?
You just need to take time to find out about yourselves, and even more time to know how the rest of the planet sees you…